So I’d like to think bisexuality is a popular blog topic, but really, I’ve only seen a few other writers touch on it. I’d like to toss in my spin on it as well. Particularly, on how other people view bisexuals. The ‘You’re not really THAT bi’ argument, which always touches a nerve when I hear it.
Men and women get it equally, but for different reasons.
So, I’d like to hear from any of my bisexual readers who have any thoughts or experiences of this nature they’d like to share. I don’t care how bi you are. I just want to hear about it.
Wendy dot Blackheart at Gmail dot come.
And that includes bi women AND men. In fact, if your a bi male, email me anyway. I love me some bi boys. Really, if your a bi male reading this, why the heck haven’t you already emailed me? :) There’s nothing I like better than a man with another man’s tongue in his mouth.
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1 maymay // Nov 16, 2007 at 6:23 pm
So ingrained is the prevalence of heterosexuality that a lot of bisexual people, women and men (but as you said, for different reasons) get accused of being bisexual solely for the sake of attracting heterosexual partners—in sort of a similar way as your last paragraph to this post reads. Needless to say, this accusation is all kinds of fucked up, but perhaps you could write your thoughts about it in this upcoming post. :)
2 Wendy // Nov 16, 2007 at 6:39 pm
I probably should have written “Theres nothing I like better than a man with another man’s tongue in his mouth…while both of them are fucking me” or something like that. Or perhaps, that “Theres nothing I like better than dating a man who’s willing to have another mans tongue in his mouth.”
Ah hell. I just like dating bi boys. I think its the bisexual connection. As a bi girl, I appreciate dating bi guys.
But thank you for pointing out my own rather hypocritical statement. :) Truly. If I can’t be called out on my own misstatements, what good am I?
But I think its less the ingrained prevalence of heterosexuality, and more the ingrained idea that sexuality is polarized in one way or the other – that you are either straight, or you are gay, but that to be anything in the middle is wrong or weird or non-existent.
That, I think, is the cause of the ‘not that bi’ argument. But I’ll flesh that out more later.
3 maymay // Nov 18, 2007 at 11:50 pm
I didn’t really comment to point out any particular hypocrisy, just to remark on the prevalence of that sort of thing. Mind you, I don’t think that (i.e., identifying as a bisexual in order to attract a heterosexual partner) is inherently wrong, only that it has political and social ramifications that should probably be explored explicitly rather than simply implicitly judged. The fact that I, personally, dislike it when people do that or when people assume I do that is another matter entirely.
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